Tuesday, July 20, 2010

The Phenomenon of Front Porches

I am from the south...I mean, honestly most folks don't associate Virginia with the south, but they just aren't real familiar with history. Richmond, the state capital of Virginia, was also the capital of the confederacy during the Civil War. When I was in school, we did not get a holiday for Martin Luther King, Jr.'s birthday alone-no it was commonly referred to as the Lee-Jackson-King day. That is Robert E. Lee and Stonewall Jackson. Confederate heroes yes, but not exactly proponents of equal rights and freedom as was King. Ironically, Virginia was the first and for some time the only state that ever elected an African-American governor-but alas I digress. Just trying to prove that Virginia is definitely a southern state. In southern states, folks tend to sit out on the porch in the summer time.

I happen to be doing that as I write, sitting on the porch and watching the life within my neighborhood pass by. It was a pastime in my hometown, and almost like a social event all summer. My parents porch is the gathering place for the well traveled, seldom seen, good Christian, bottle toting little bit of everybody within their neighborhood. People will be driving by and stop for a minute, leaving hours later. The front porch is to community relationships what the kitchen is to the family.

I remember when I started to drive and I would go down my block back home I would just raise my hand out of the window for the enter street-as to "speak" to everyone sitting out on their porches in the summer. My grandmother said it "didn't take nothing to speak to people," so I had best not some neighbor see my folks out and say I saw your son, "but he aint speak." Not cool. So now, when I sit out I give a wave or a holler to any other neighbor doing the same and in essence that is what builds community.

I live in the city, but in a little piece of peace within all the hustle and bustle. The front porch and pretty large park beside my home were two key selling features for me. For the first few years I owned the place however, I did not spend much time on the porch...did not even do alot to the front of the house. Recently, my wife and I have made significant changes-plants, paint, shrubbery, furniture, etc. that create the subtle outdoor room feel. Extending the space, and allowing us to actually live in the city not just inside a house in the city...feel me?

A front porch also gives you a view of your neighborhood...the cars that go up and down all day, the different folks walking by...what your neighbors really look like because you can stare and just make it seem like you just chilling. It also let everyone know that you are present and accounted for, and fully invested in your block. Seeing is believing right. I just think the front porch is an essential piece of the home. I hope to always have one...

Thursday, July 01, 2010

Cheesecake...

I am a dessert dude. Honestly, I feel like dessert should be served after every meal. Best cheesecake I have had in a while I must say is the caramel apple cheesecake from, where else, the Cheesecake Factory...delicious. I am not doing adds or anything but i just had it and it is, well you know, what can I say! Anyway, cheesecake is like a delicacy you cannot have very often, or the pounds keep coming. To treat yourself to a nice piece of that cake...

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Status check...

When I was a little kid, I used to dream about 2010...like spaceships and alien life forms, robots and cities in the sky. But 2010, although different from the past, is not so futuristic. Life is truly very much the same, folks still trying to make it. Materialism is the religion of choice, and the word freedom can be used to justify just about anything-from personal behavior to the acts of states. Again, not so different from 1910. I mean the technology has advanced...but does that mean the people have?

I would argue that communication, in all its various forms, has broadened in a way that will drive the world to both its highest and lowest levels in the future. For instance, right now upon posting people in the far reaches of the world can read my thoughts, nearly instantaneously. But just the same, someone can hack your account and wipe out all your money in an instant. All via the communication super highway...I mean know the proper term is information, but all these various systems are communicating so more than anything it is all about communication.

Communication. It seems there are so many ways to communicate now that we seldom use the old fashioned sit down discussion of days past. No, it is a text or e-mail at this point...we don't even use the phone we carry (at all times) to talk anymore. At least not with our mouths. It is all about the world knowing everything about you-what you just ate, read, saw, did...but in actuality they all know nothing. Twitter, Facebook, MySpace, etc. etc....all so everyone can socially connect every second of every day. This is our present...my generation X's futuristic tomorrow that Luke Skywalker prophesied about in a galaxy far, far away. Well, not quite. But this is what 2010 has brought about.

Still, with all these forms of communication there are no less wars, 1/2 of all marriages end in divorce, the high school dropout rate is alarming and poverty...it is still the same. It adds fuel to the debate on whether our history, American or global at this point, is a linear progression. In other words, is man continually progressing towards an elevated state of being? Is that even possible?

I do not know the answer to these questions, or the multitude of others that fall in behind them. It really all depends on how one sees the world. To some the atomic bomb, was progress...to others, the beginning of the end. Nuclear energy is now the topic of discussion amongst the world's countries. Who should be allowed to possess its infinite power, and capability of destruction. No one. But that is not the debate. Again, it goes to how one sees the world. The world in the year 2010.

Where are we headed? Humanity that is, what is the destination for our people? There are so many opinions and now, with the communication capacity of the web, those opinions are multiplied by the billions. There is no consensus to life anymore. There are pockets of belief and conformity-but the fragmentation of thought continues by the second. Still, in the midst of what some may say is chaos-love continues to survive, children are laughing, people are getting old, racism, sexism and hate are diminishing...we are changing. Not all good, but not all bad.

2010.

Sunday, November 01, 2009

Space...

I sit here alone
few hours prior to dawn
thinking of life
differently
what if? myself
to sleep
perhaps...
but the past
flashes in my mind
like fireflies
on a summer's eve
thoughts traveling ever so gently
through the dark
spaces of my
consciousness
at nighttime while
others peacefully dream
I sit alone
staring at the computer
screen
tapping out emotions
in morse code
as if the keyboard can feel
my spirit
yet it feels nothing
numb
as my fingertips be
as mental
photographs of yesterday
envelope
my being
seeing it all like a
movie
plays out...
the ending a fabrication of
false reality
because this is
what is
and the could be's
will never-
or better yet
may not
flower this season
and though I will shower myself
with reason in the morning
at present the night has my attention
and rest suspended by
forgetten sensibility
silly of me to have doused
imagination
in a belated epiphany
only to paint myself
in a corner of question marks





Sunday, September 20, 2009

Anew

It is funny, how many times you start anew...I am going to start fresh on Monday-working out, eating less junk food, reading more, being a better friend-yada, yada, yada. Most often, something, be it a statement someone made, or a great book or a character in a movie...something has usually motivated you to get to the "Anew" position. It is not a bad thing I suppose, I mean we should be allowed to re-create ourselves as often as we like. It takes time to truly get to the essence of who we are...and that may be a life long journey. You don't have to stay the same. Same old same old; naw.

In that light, anew is a good term. One that all should encounter and embrace. It does not last long, I mean once you start "anew" it is no longer anew-it is well, it just is. I mean once you begin a journey you are no longer beginning you are on the journey. Once you decide to change either bad habits or simply develop some new ones the new piece is gone. Thing is, only way to stay on the "new" path is to use discipline in your approach. The D word. I think more than anything, the D word is like the whole foundation of "Anew".

Check it out...you will be forever starting anew if you do not incorporate discipline. I do not know how many times I "started" working out. I think the longest consecutive visits had to be like a year-2 or 3 times a week-and I was in good condition. But the trials of life take you out of routine space and well-I am about to start Anew tomorrow...ummm yeah. If I could get up in the morning than-wait-if I had the discipline to go to bed early and get up in the morning I could work out before work...say word. Word...so it goes back to the D.

Regardless, we will forever be starting anew at something. The beauty of life is that if you wake up in the morning you have yet another opportunity to change the way you are living for the betterment of your entire existence. I truly think the power we have to determine our future, our life, based on our choices, is somehow lost between socialization and religion. Often, we put all the hard stuff on God or society-Lord please help me pay all these bills or the government aint got a program to help me make it through tough times...but when it is all good, well, we take all the credit for that. Look at this new car I bought-or this promotion I earned...where is God in that, or your free public education. The fact is we have control over the good and the bad aspects of our life, and although God is always with us he provided us with free will to make decisions and choices in our lives.

This free will, coupled with logic and reason, allow us to at times see our errors and try to rectify them within ourselves. This is what me mean by starting anew. God gives us a second chance so to speak every morning we are able to open our eyes. A new day to become what are dreams have defined us to be...